His hand slipped perfectly into mine as we walked amid a scenic landscape in Colorado. It was as if the rhythm of our hearts began beating in unison–a moment I'll never forget. About two months earlier we exchanged greetings for the first time. Then, we spent an entire summer leading trips as backpacking guides. Now, we were dating and working a seasonal job together in the mountains of Colorado.
God's perfect display of beauty surrounded our courtship in the most unexpected ways. For years I prayed for God to orchestrate the love story of my dreams. The story was now unfolding before my eyes, capturing all the lovely details my heart desired. It was autumn, and I watched as the aspen trees gradually transformed the landscape into a spectacular display of golden yellow. As weeks went by, more hints of gold saturated the base of mountains. Deep into autumn, our hearts were also saturated—with love for each other.
A few months later, under the night sky of New Year's fireworks, the love of my life proposed to me. Ten years of marriage and three children later, my husband and I still enjoy time together with natural landscapes as our backdrop. Autumn is always special for us though. It will forever contain a memory of our story—when our young passion flourished.
“. . . Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth – for your love is more delightful than wine.”
Song of Songs 1:1b, NIV
Passion is interwoven in the strands of a healthy marriage. It deepens with marriage, but it's also challenged by the complexity of life's demands.
How can we fuel the passion in our marriages? Song of Songs provides direction. There are three consistent themes I observed between the passionate lovers of this book.
3 Ways to Fuel Passion in Your Marriage:
Spend time with your spouse. (Song of Songs 1:4, 2:3)
Serve your spouse. (Song of Songs 4:16, 7:12)
Affirm your spouse. (Song of Songs 5:10-16)
Song of Songs provides great insight for marriage, and I believe it is also a beautiful allegory of Christ and his bride, the church. For the next two weeks we will be studying Song of Songs. We will read each of the chapters, and I have prayerfully picked only a few verses we will be studying more in depth. As you study, consider the application in regards to your marriage and your relationship with God. Please click here to download this week's reading guide. Let's begin by reading a passage from this week.
(Beloved) “How handsome you are, my lover! Oh, how charming! And our bed is verdant.” Song of Songs 1: 16, NIV
As you read these verses, consider the following questions:
What words of affirmation does the beloved say of her lover in these verses?
How do the two spend time together?
How will you apply this verse to your marriage?
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