In the middle of the night, my tears woke me from an unpleasant dream. Even though my blurred world was no longer a reality, I continued to sob in the quiet of the night.
And my heart ached.
Unfortunately, my vivid dream was a reoccurring one—a dream of painful rejection. A wound from my past that resurfaced from the recesses of my mind. The sum of it was this: I'm not loved.
Thankfully, the scenario of my dream was not a present reality.
But the theme of it is.
“Does anyone really like me?” I occasionally wonder. Especially in circumstances when I'm the one who's uninvited, rudely spoken to, or simply ignored.
Maybe you can relate.
We all face rejection, whether we're willing to admit it or not. And we'll frequently attempt anything to avoid it. We speak, dress, and perform to be accepted by others, but what we don't realize is we’re expecting unconditional acceptance from imperfect people. Ones who may love us for who we are, but at one time or another fall short to give us what our souls truly long for—unconditional love.
When our minds grapple with questions such as “Am I significant? Am I wanted?” Jesus silences all of them with three simple, yet powerful words, “It is finished,” (John 19:30).
We simply can't look to anyone else to silence these questions in our minds. We must look to Christ by remembering the glorious gospel.
When Jesus died on the cross, he said, “It is finished.” He bore the wrath of God for our sins. Then, he victoriously rose from the grave. Those who follow Him in faith and obedience receive a new life in Him.
Who are we? We are made new in Christ. We're not rejected. According to Ephesians chapter one, we are:
Recipients of grace.
Holy and blameless.
Daughters/Sons of the King.
And SEALED with the Holy Spirit.
We are dearly loved and accepted by our heavenly Father. And we have very specific purposes.
In Ephesians chapter one alone, Paul clearly outlines three specific purposes:
To be holy and blameless before God (Ephesians 1:4)
For the praise of God's glorious grace (Ephesians 1:6)
For us to be united with all things in God (Ephesians 1:10)
The only way to break through the fog of rejection is to remember who we are in Christ. Because of Jesus' death and resurrection, we are His. Rather than chasing after conditional acceptance, let's look to Him, and ground our forgetful mind in truth.
“For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, no powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:38-39
“The Spirit himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God, and if children, then heirs—heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ, provided we suffer with him in order that we may also be glorified with him.” Romans 8:16-17
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